After I finished giving Tony the cold shoulder for most of yesterday, he suggested we get out of the house. I was thankful for that because with working at home, I get sick of being in the house quite often. He said there was a festival in downtown Rochester, just 15 minutes from home, so we headed there. Oh my gosh it was so much fun. It's called Dancing in the Streets, and apparently it's an annual tradition, but I've never been before. There were a bunch of food vendors, and then at the end of 4th street there was a stage set up and bands were playing.
There were bands on Friday night and then different ones all day Saturday. The one playing last night was fabulous and hundreds of people were literally dancing in the street. Since Tony doesn't dance he stood next to me and watched as I danced for a couple of hours. It was a great environment; no alcohol, people of all ages, plenty of teenagers boogieing down to music from the 60s and 70s. It was nice to see kids having good, clean, family fun. I also enjoyed seeing the older couples dancing, and I told Tony that someday we have to take dancing lessons, so he can learn how to dance. I want to be able to dance as a couple! Tony's father and I tried to teach Tony to dance before our wedding, but it was hopeless, therefore our wedding dance was the typical "let's go in a circle for 5 minutes". However Tony said that someday he would take dance lessons with me (it's on the list for future endeavors). The evening was a ton of fun and definitely lifted my mood. I did plenty of joking with Tony about his Italian obsession as well.
As I was laying in bed last night I came up with a new strategy about this Italian donor; I'm going to do NOTHING. I'm going to let Tony do it all; take charge of this project; see if he can find a donor, and just sit back and watch from the sidelines. I imagine that in a month or so he will have made no progress, realize it's difficult, decide he is really ready for a baby, and he'll end up picking one of the donors from RMA. I did get him to admit that a large part of why he hasn't connected to the RMA donors is because we don't get to see any pictures at all. I truly think that is a huge part of it. If he saw the picture of a pretty girl, he'd be able to get past the fact that she's only 25% Italian. I explained that I am fine not seeing a picture because then I won't have to always imagine our baby's genetic mother. He said that's a good point.
So I'll wait, as usual, for him to catch up. I have plenty to keep me busy; my job, my business, my friends, and preparing to celebrate my 40th birthday which is a month from yesterday. I want to go away with my girlfriends for the weekend. I have 2 other friends turning 40 in September so we want to do a girls' weekend up north with spa treatments. Anyone in Michigan have any suggestions?
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That sounds like a brilliant strategy - good thinking!
That festival sounds fun...glad you had a good time.
And I think that's a good strategy that will save you some of the frustration that he's sure to experience in the month to come. :)
Good point about not seeing a picture. On the one hand, I'm glad we got to see a picture of our donor, but on the other, I worry about the same thing you brought up. Will I always be looking for her face in the face of my children?
What about Grand Traverse Resort? They have a spa, Traverse City has a great downtown shopping district, and then, of course, there's wine tasting! Wish I could go, now that I mention it.
Ah, this is a good idea! I bet he will change his mind much more quickly if he is in charge.
Im so glad yu got out and had some fun.
Good move making him in charge of selecting a donor. It all seems so easy when you are in the passenger seat. Hope it doesn't take him too long to come around.
The festival sounds so much fun. I love to dance and its been AGES since I had a good boogie.
Good idea re getting him to do the research...if you can bear to hold back while he does/doesnt' do it. Hopefully it will give him a clue how hard it is. I'd worry that if I left it to Mr G he wouldn't do it and i'd be really p'd off with him! But then that's just my husband.
Hope he comes around soon. xxx
I just found your blog, and I wanted to tell you it put a smile on my face! You have such a good attitude. I'm 3dp3dt, and it gets a bit hard to keep your head up every minute, so it was refreshing to read your blog.
That festival sounds like a lot of fun too... About the donor eggs search, I think it's a great idea to put him in charge. That will take some of the pressure off of you! Best of luck to you!
Just catching up on your last few posts, and I'm glad you seem to be coming up with a good strategy. The festival sounds really fun - I didn't know rochester had that :-) I ditto what Tracy said about Grand Traverse, I've never been there recently but a lot of the girls from work have used the spa there on different occasions. I've heard good things. Wherever you go, I hope you have a great time. I will follow your orders and do as you say, I promise!
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