On Friday night my dear Antonio and I finally sat down and had an adult....albeit somewhat heated and emotional..conversation about the terrible fight a few nights before and our infertility. Atlhough I don't agree with hubby's thought process on some issues, we at least have an agreement on a plan. Next step is for him to call and schedule a conference call with Dr. M on Monday. I am hoping that they will talk next week. I am going to call the nurse to find out when hubby and I can go in to get our blood drawn for our infectious disease testing (last IVF doctor didn't require it, but this one does). I am also going to go in on cycle day 21 for the blood test to verify that I ovulated and then perhaps I will start on estrace. No lupron this time. At a minimum we will be doing IUI next month, although I'm hoping Dr. M can convince Tony to do IVF. I'll also get my FSH tested on day 3 while they are doing the ultrasound. Last June I was 7.9, let's hope that I'm still in that ballpark. I think that Tony is finally on board that at a minimum we have to do IUI for the next several months. Why waste any more time on natural attempts?
Oh and hubby doesn't feel guilty about his sperm issues - he is still in full on denial about that one. Being the engineer and six sigma black belt that he is, he continues to insist that the sperm analysis is a flawed test, with insufficient instructions and improper test methods resulting in unreliable results. Okay whatever. His greatest cause for concern is the finite window of opportunity that we are under due to my age. Uh yeah, I'm concerned about that too, which is why doing the most aggressive treatments makes the most sense!! We've certainly made a lot of mistakes on this journey. Hindsight tells me we should've both been tested before we got married and we should've been doing IVF 2 days after the wedding. We've wasted a lot of time that I wish we hadn't. But it is what it is, and we can only go forward.
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It's great that you guys talked and things are coming to the surface. Good luck with the conference next week...hopefully things can get cleared up.
That's a good start. As for testing, we all live in hope for a good long while before reality slaps us (repeatedly) in the face.
I'm glad you guys talked...and that you have a plan. Good luck as things progress.
I am glad you guys finally had a talk about everything. I am sure you both feel better and csn at least consider the other's position on things now. Good luck with all the doctor appts and the IUI's coming up!
Glad to hear you are working thing out. It is hard not to think about if only I had started earlier....but, we can only look forward. This is a new year and a fresh start for all of us. Good Luck!!!
I'm glad you got to talk. This stuff makes marriage even harder than it should be. Maybe when we marry later in life that's the risk we take...
You can't kick yourself for not doing tests and treatment sooner. It's not your mistake it's just bad luck. I also wish we'd done something before we got married - i'd have had extra time with my declining egg supply but, as I said, we can't beat ourselves up for that.
My hubbie wonders if we'd have married at all if we'd known about his infertility.
Good luck with your IUI's and I hope it's an IVF if needed. x
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