Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Not doing the IUI today
Read the below post first and you will get the background. We had the opportunity to do an unmedicated IUI today and capture my egg that is ready to burst and my husband decided not to do it. We had a fight last night that is still not resolved and he doesn't want to go to the IUI when we are not in a positive mood. Needless to say I didn't sleep at all last night so today is going to be a rough day.
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I'm sorry you are having a rough day. It's crap--you already feel so alone in this journey. Maybe your husband is just overwhelmed too. Hear me out on this: In my marriage, I am the problem. I feel a sense of embarrassment and failure, helplessness, etc. Maybe your husband feels that way too...then again, maybe not? I completely understand your frustrations with his lack of support, especially at doctor appts. I really hope that you find a way to communicate without taking each of your frustrations out on the other.
Elaine has a good point that I hadn't considered when I read your other post.
Scott didn't want to do anything about our IF for the first year because he thought it would "just happen." When it didn't just happen, he agreed to test, and his SA came back with MFI (poor morphology - so poor that even our IUIs were doomed.) After that, he dragged his feet for another 8 months or so...probably for the reasons Elaine is mentioning. He had a hard time coming to terms with it.
He is now FULLY on board...and it's wonderful.
I hope you guys get there, and soon.
{{{HUGS}}}
Sounds like you two need to have a heart to heart. He's feeling something about something and probably not willing to admit it to himself much less to you. I've been there, and thankfully we've been able to move on, but it took lots of tears, from us both. Good luck.
I'm saying a prayer for you and your husband. I agree with the others--try talking it out calmly and seeing if there are any underlying causes of why he is so against meds and other treatments. I hope it all works out, and soon.
My husband was against all of the IF stuff too...he wanted it to happen naturally...that is until he heard the 1% statistic. That was pretty daunting. Hopefully he'll come around...it would just be nice if it happened sooner than later. Thinking about you...
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