Monday, December 6, 2010

Got rid of a toxic friend today

I've been "friends" with this person for more than 10 years, but honestly I've wanted to cut her out of my life for a long time.  She is a very judgmental, negative, toxic person and it's not even worth going over all of the things we have disagreed about over the years.  I never wanted to hurt her, but honestly I haven't really liked her for a very long time. The below email she sent me is just the excuse I needed.  I unfriended her on FB faster than Speedy Gonzalez and I'm not even going to respond to her email.  She's not worth it. I have so many more (dozens and dozens) of friends who are supportive and I will not miss her one bit.  For those of you who have been reading my blog for a long time, she's the one who wanted to donate her eggs to me when she was 38. Here's the email I received this morning:

Subject: Lunch-plans need to cancel:

Please let me start by saying that I re-wrote this more than once, prayed about it and then slept on it.

I can't support you in your quest for surrogacy. I am so sorry. I remember you mentioning it as an option (so that you don't wonder why I am so shocked now), but I honestly believed it was not really being considered by you.

Please don't write me back an angry note as I am not trying to be mean or a bad guy. I don't want to hurt anyone or make anyone unhappy; I just know I need to be honest about what I can and can't do.

I am not saying I don't want to talk again, but I know after all I have been through in my own life that I can't be the friend you need during this process.

I hope you can respect my honesty and concern if nothing else.

I hope God blesses you over this holiday season and I will continue to keep you in my prayers-

Lara

2 comments:

Erin said...

Kelly, it amazes me how self righteous and nervy people are, especially someone claiming to be a friend. Ugh. You are so zen to not even respond. I don't know if I would be able to control myself, even though nothing good would come out of it and I can't even imagine what to say. I'm sorry you've got this put in front of you but also very thankful that you know where your true love and support lies.

KC said...

What the heck? Do you have any idea what her reasoning was? (not that it really matters)

So wrong. Sorry you had to read that but glad you don't have to be "friends" with her anymore.

Big hugs!!!!