Background on the crazy b*$#h

Here is a little background on the crazy bitch that is now my ex-friend. First of all her supposed reasonings for not being supportive of us doing surrogacy are all over the place. She sort of told me her reasons several months ago when we were investigating surrogacy the first time.  As you can see by her note, I've told her nothing of the past several months, so I guess she was shocked that we are going through with it. Apparently she is extremely fearful of surrogacy - as in the surrogate mother is going to run off with our baby.  Also she is very judgmental of Tarzan and thinks it is just terrible that he is not open to adoption. She also thought it was horrible that Tarzan wanted our egg donor to be Italian. Never mind that it didn't bother me because I actually liked our egg donor and didn't care what nationality she was.  Apparently things that bother Lara should bother me.  Apparently she thinks she knows more about my marriage than I do. I really don't understand why she is so against surrogacy. I would say it is because she is Catholic, but the problem is she doesn't follow many of the other rules of the Catholic church.  She's had sex with probably 100 men and she doesn't seem to care that she breaks that rule, so that cannot be her reason against surrogacy.  She is very self-righteous and judgmental and apparently she feels it is her right to judge whether and how we become parents. 

To add some more background - this is the same delusional person who wanted to donate her eggs to me when she was 38. Never mind that no doctor in his right mind would take donated eggs from a 38 year old;  because in her mind she was the most fertile woman on the planet. The funny thing is that she also said to me "if I hadn't had such difficult pregnancies I would even carry a baby for you". Is that not a reference to being a surrogate? See, she is the most hypocritical person I've ever met. 

I wish I had had the strength to extricate her from my life 10 years ago. You see I knew she was a whack job way back then.  The first inclination was when we went out with a bunch of people to a restaurant and she and her boyfriend had just started dating. They got into a fight in the restaurant, and she was a total bitch to the waitress.  The rest of us just looked at each other and rolled our eyes.  The next one is the absolute kicker though.  Several months later she was engaged and I was throwing her bridal shower and also doing a reading at her wedding (because no one else would).  Side note - she was the one whose bridal shower started me on my soap making hobby which became Backyard Soaps).  3 months before her wedding, she actually came onto my boyfriend (not Tarzan, another nice guy). She called him on the phone and said "I know I'm getting married in 3 months, but I just need to know if there is any possibility for you and I to be together".  Of course he told her to get lost. I should have called her crazy ass out on the carpet then, but being the super nice person that I am, I kept coming up with excuses for her behavior. My boyfriend and I still attended her wedding, along with several other friends who knew she was crazy, and we all laughed about how the marriage would never last. The bride and groom were fighting the night before the wedding.   Anyway, as you can imagine the marriage didn't even make it to 3 years. Unfortunately they had 2 kids right away, so she has been a struggling single mother for more than 5 years now. However she made her own bed and I feel no sympathy for her.  I told her years later that all of us knew the marriage wouldn't last, and she was so surprised that no one came to her before the wedding.  What?  As if she would have listened. ha!

It is my own fault for remaining "friends" with her for so long when so many of her other friends cut off contact with her years ago.  She goes through friends like I change my underwear.  Although I will tell you that even though she and I stayed in contact, I've made a good effort to avoid her and limit my communication and contact with her.  When we first met 11 years ago, we talked all the time, emailed all the time. However once I figured out she was off her rocker, I did an okay job of limiting my contact with her. Except that I made the mistake of hiring her as my wedding coordinator.  She did an okay job, but there were a couple mistakes that pissed Tarzan off so much he really hasn't spoken to her since our wedding.  At the end of the day I think she is extremely jealous of the life I have with Tarzan. She's jealous that I chose the right person and am happily married, and live in a nice house. I think if I have a child it will make her even more jealous because I'll have a family.  She's got her 2 boys, but I doubt she will ever find another guy to marry her. I'm sure it is very hard to be a single mother, but she made her own choices.

As to why I am not responding to her email from yesterday; I don't want to give her that satisfaction. Even though she said she doesn't want me to respond to her with an angry email, I know she really does. She thrives on drama. Besides I've been wanting the opportunity for years to totally cut her out of my life and it finally arrived!  I honestly feel like celebrating.  In fact I had a dream last night that I had let her back into my life, and accepted an apology from her and even in my dream I was regretting that. When I woke up this morning I was so happy that it was just a dream, and I really am finally FREE of her.

The good news is that I have no other crazy friends, all of my other friends are wonderful, drama-free, supportive and I cherish my friendships with them - which includes you Erin and Kacy!! Erin- someday we will meet in person and toast our friendship!  I'm so glad God brought both of you into my life!