Just got home from a very long Easter day to read an email from my donor with another possible change in the schedule. She met with the Social Worker on Thursday and was informed that on egg retrieval day she won't be able to go to class, that she'll have to go home and rest. Apparently the doctors weren't clear, or our donor didn't listen to what is going to happen on Egg Retrieval day. She thought she was going to be able to go in at 6:30 AM like she does for the ultrasounds, have the ER and then be to class by 8:30 AM. Oh boy! IVF 101 class is needed.
She is taking a 3 week class for her nursing program and if she misses a day she gets kicked out of the class. Her email was requesting a way to plan so the ER falls on a weekend. I wrote back to her and explained that the doctors cannot guarantee that ER occurs on a weekend, that she can be on the stimulation drugs for anywhere from 8 - 13 days and she won't know the exact day of the retrieval until 2-3 days in advance. Ugh! I'm trying to control my urge to scream, cry and hit something! We were so close to starting! I was supposed to start the damn lupron tomorrow and instead I'm going to have to be on the phone with the donor and our clinic trying to re-do the schedule! This is when I get super angry that we have to use donor eggs in the first place. I hate relying on someone else!!!!!
Then the stupid social worker tells her that the extra eggs can be donated to someone else or donated to research. WTF??? We haven't signed our contract yet so I haven't explained to her or that stupid social worker that any extra EMBRYOS (not eggs) will be our property and we will be freezing them to use for child #2 or #3.
Well I guess the only good news is that I can keep drinking wine for another couple of weeks! However I'm still super pissed.
6 comments:
I completely understand why you're upset and I don't blame you! Wow. When do you sign a contract? I would think your agreement would come before anything. I can't believe she didn't call on Dr. Google to find these things out.
But maybe you will be able to come up with a workable solution tomorrow. I hope so!!!
I'm so sorry about this setback. I'll be praying that there is a solution without having to put off the IVF! Thinking of you!
What a terrible thing to happen; hopefully it will be resolved but I understand how crazy this is making you. It is so frustrating to have to rely on someone else to provide those eggs, and it would sure be easier to do it yourself! But hopefully she isn't a total flake. Not to open a huge can of worms (esp since Tarzan is so particular about donors), but is it too late to go with someone else if this doesn't seem to work? You definately don't want to get halfway through the cycle and have the donor pull out then! My heart is aching for you - hope this all works out somehow!
Drink lots and lots of wine!
Sorry for the frustration and the delay, my dear.
Keep us posted!
wow what a pain in the *ss!! I totally agree tyring to rely on other people for things is rough, especially something as time sensative as this!
I'm hoping you can pull some kind of magic trick and still make this happen. Obviously this is an important time in your life!
I'm so sorry Kelly! I hope your donor and social worker get their acts together asap.
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