Well I just got the good news that our donor #2 is not a CF carrier!! That means we are good to go! I am very excited, however last night donor #1 called to let me know her period finally started. Oh boy, what to do. She called me before we knew about the CF result on donor #2. Just to refresh your memories - donor #1 was the one we met in late December whom we absolutely adore! She's cute, super friendly and we connected with her instantly. However she has irregular periods and she has had a miscarriage. We were expecting her period to start in January, but while we were waiting we found and met donor #2. We decided to have both tested. Well donor #2 started her period first (and has regular periods and one live child), so she had the testing done. Donor #1 told us a couple of weeks ago that she was going to go to the doctor because she was concerned that her period was taking so long to arrive (it had been more than 4 months since her previous AF). I was relieved that she was going to go to the doctor because more than anything I'm concerned about her health. She's a great girl and I want her to have a long, happy life. Well her period started yesterday, before she had made it to the doctor. In order to help make our decision, I called our clinic first thing this morning to see if the CF result was back on donor #2 - the nurse put me on hold to look it up and then told me that it came back negative! Fabulous news!
However now we have to tell donor #1 that we are not going to have her tested at this time. I know that on paper donor #2 is our best shot at a child, and in the end that is the goal. However this is still going to be difficult. We really care for donor #1 as a person - I swear I'd like to adopt her myself - she's just a great young woman.
I'm considering going private on my blog due to this situation. Since we are dealing with known donors and not anonymous one, I may have to do so.
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Great news that you have options on the donor front, even if it means a difficult decision. So much better than NO donor, just waiting and hoping. I agree that Donor #2 looks better on paper, it is so hard to know what to do. Has your RE weighed in on this? Or since you are getting your own donor will they not comment? Good luck!
If you decide to go private, I don't know if you will be interested in extending invitations to your blog. But if you do I would love to follow your story!
Great news that you have options on the donor front, even if it means a difficult decision. So much better than NO donor, just waiting and hoping. I agree that Donor #2 looks better on paper, it is so hard to know what to do. Has your RE weighed in on this? Or since you are getting your own donor will they not comment? Good luck!
If you decide to go private, I don't know if you will be interested in extending invitations to your blog. But if you do I would love to follow your story!
Wow! What a day of good news, but I see your dilemma. You have to do what's right for your family at this point. I still can't get over how amazing this is and how amazing it is that women do this for each other. It's great! Can't wait to hear more...if you let us in on it!
Go! Go! Go!!! Cheering for you.
This is great news!!! YAY!!!!
Well, it's a good position to be in, I figure!
I hope you'll allow me to continue reading as things develop, but if not, I totally understand!
Yay! That's fantastic news on your #2 donor. It stinks that things are now rolling with #1, huh? Why does life have to be so difficult? I think when it really comes down to it, that #1 would have to understand your decision. And just to echo what the other's have said, I hope you extend invitations to follow your journey...
Yay for having two donors to choose from! I think you should follow your instincts, if number 2 sounds like the safer bet, then go for it. :)
Oooh. That's a very tricky situation and not one the etiquett books really cover.
Regardless, I am so happy that you have found a donor who fits,
xx
J
Yay for donor 2 testing negative for CF! Man, that's too bad about donor 1 calling. Good luck figuring out what to do. I guess it's good to have choices, even if it's hard to make the choice.
And I want an invite if you go private!
Congrat's!! Keeping my fingers and eyes crossed for you!
If you go private, I would still like to follow your story......but if not I understand!
I have no idea how you are supposed to tell her. I guess just be honest. All things being = I think Donor #2 is the more sure bet.
So glad donor 2 is a go. It will feel awful telling #1 your decision, but I think deep down she knows her history isn't the best for a couple looking to have a healthy, live birth.
as the cliche goes, you could still be friends...?
I'm so glad that you have not one good one...but two good donors. That is awesome! That must be a tough choice...I don't even know how I'd start to choose. If you decide to go private I'd love to follow along if that's okay.
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