Tarzan and I will be meeting our first potential TS (Traditional Surrogate) this coming Saturday January 30th at around 11:00 AM. She lives on the way back to Michigan, so since Tarzan and I will be driving home from Chicago we thought it would be a good opportunity to meet her. We've been talking to her via email for about a month and a half. She is very nice "on paper" so we'll see how it goes in person. I think Tarzan is still a bit shell shocked at how much surrogacy costs even though I was telling him from the very beginning how expensive it is. He wasn't listening to me until the last couple of weeks. Now I'm not so sure he is as willing to move forward with it right away. We had talked about doing surrogacy even if my FET works, and that is what I have told all of the potential surrogates to whom I've been talking. Now I'm not so sure. I wish I had been able to do the FET now, so we'd know if it worked, but I'm delaying it in order to pass my PMP certification exam. Oh well, I say we meet "R" and see how it goes. If we fall totally in love with her, then we'll see how the spirit moves us. She is pregnant with her first surrobaby right now and due in March. She wants to start trying with her next set of IPs (Intended Parents) in July of this year. What I do know is that I want to take the appropriate amount of time to get to know her and also to make sure she gives birth to this first surrobaby; I want to see if her feelings change after this first experience. This is TS - so it is her genetic child. She says she will be ready to move forward with her second journey right away, but we'll see. She's only 23, so I want to wait and see how her emotions are afterwards.
I talked to another potential TS on the phone last week. She is from North Carolina and has been a TS twice before and is looking for one final journey. She is older (30) and seems very nice and smart as well. I told her we were meeting a TS up here closer to us and then afterwards we could talk about possibly taking a trip to NC to meet her.
Finally based on the fact that I got zero comments on my last post, I'm guessing that you were all taken aback by my lack of empathy for people who can't quite move on past infertility many years on. I apologize if I offended anyone. I just don't want to be crying about this in ten years, but that's just me.
4 comments:
Exciting! Can't wait to hear how it goes!
Oh, and I wasn't taken back by your last post. Just got busy and hadn't read it yet! I totally see where you're coming from.
Hugs!
Good luck, Kelly. I agree with being happy, and making the decision to be happy. It is a choice for sure, and sometimes it is a tough one given circumstances, but you are right, you have a fabulous life filled with love and laughter....to enjoy. xo
Wow sounds like some good progress. My nephew's ex-wfie is realy good friends with a woman who's been a surrogate 3 times, but for woman who can't carry a baby to full term, she's never used her eggs and someones else's sperm. She's from the 'country' so i would not reccomend her to anyone, very nice, but again very 'country', if you know what i mean, she's from AR!! haaha
Anyways i used to never wants kids, until i met my husband. Then when i had issues getting pregnant i thought about living child free and thought i could do it, but then i thought, 'you never really know how you feel until your in the situation'. My husband once thought about not having kids, but now that we have Nick, he couldn't live without him!!!
I do hope the people you know can move on. They need grief couseling. I met a Grief counselor once who was working with a couple who tried to have a baby for 10 years and spent well over 100K and just could not and finally gave up.
wow. this comment is long!
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